I was reading a wonderful blog the other day that really gave me the topic for today. She believes that soul mates do not exist. I wanted to go into a long debate with her about why I feel they do exist.
I’ve shared my true love story with you in bits and pieces all throughout my blog. Del and I have endured many different storms throughout our 20 plus long relationship. In a nutshell, we’ve literally married other people, gone back and forth with each other numerous times, and I’ve cheated on him a thousand times. Through all of it, we’ve managed to become nothing but closer. Our hearts yearned for each other when we were apart.
I could literally feel him yearning for me. I could feel the pull for us to be together. I knew I was in the wrong place with the wrong men. He knew he was not with the person he was suppose to be with. We could feel our hearts and souls being tugged to be with each other.
I read a blog post the other day about her version of the Fifty Shades of Gray, and I wish like hang I had saved the link because she wrote about the romance in the story. She talked about what was beyond the gravity sexual pull between the two of them. It reminded me so much of Del and I.
I talk about sex a lot in regards to marriage. I don’t hardly ever talk about how sex use to be something I treated like it was just an act that often. There was a period in my life where every Tom, Dick,and Harry just looked like a wonderful juicy piece of meat that I had to have. If he was sexy and the chemistry was there, I was like a dog and ready to get laid.
However, my sexual pull with Del was different from the start. There was passion, there was a connection the minute I looked in his eyes the very first time, and I was a goner. If it hadn’t been for the drama from my Mom, I’m willing to bank money I would have stayed true to him from the word go and we would have gotten married as soon as I was legally allowed to do it. (I’d also be the mother to seven kids instead of only three and a full blown teacher with my degree completed.)
Del and I were like jack rabbits with each other. We could barely keep our hands off each other. Guess what, to this day we are still that way. If we could be intimate with each other all day long, you can bank it happens. However, we are so much more than just sexual partners.
We can sense what the other is feeling, thinking, and longing for even when we are apart. We are connected in such a manner that when we are apart we’re not fully one. I believe God made each of us for the other. Del and I said vows to each other in the comfort of his home many moons ago long before either of us got married to anyone else. I honestly and truly believe that those simple vows is what helped finalize us becoming one. (Of course, I won’t know that answer and if I’m right in that theory until I pass and meet my maker. However, it does cross my mind all the time.)
Especially since God has told me on more than one occasion that Del is the one for me. He created Del to be my soul mate. He did nothing but open those doors for us to be together. God knows he’s given my husband the heart of gold to forgive me for all of the many of hurtful mistakes I’ve made against him. I praise God everyday that Del is my husband today.
So yes, I firmly believe that God created us to be with one soul mate. I believe if a person becomes a widow at a young age that God will create another one. I don’t believe he creates more than one soul mate for each of us unless one half of the equation passes away. Maybe I’m wrong in my belief of this. However, I stand behind it because of my life romance with Del.
Just for the record, I also do strongly believe that a person should WAIT until they are officially married to have sex with someone. I know I didn’t do that, and I REGRET it far more than I can ever express. I encourage anyone who is a virgin to stay one until they are married because sex after marriage with the right person is truly a remarkable thing. If you don’t have sex prior to marriage there is a lot less heartache involved in a marriage!!
What are your thoughts??