How to Balance Being a Mom and Keeping the Spark Alive in Your Relationship

As a mother, I understand how important it is to put your kids’ needs first. However, it’s equally important to nurture the connection between you and your partner. This can be challenging, as there isn’t always enough time – or energy – to go around.

To help couples keep the spark alive in their relationships while juggling the demands of parenthood, I’ve put together this guide.

By reflecting on how valuable your relationship is, carving out quality time together, investing in “me” time, practicing effective communication strategies and expressing gratitude for each other, you can prioritize your exceptional partnership while still taking care of your family.

Understanding the Challenges

Being a mom can be an all-encompassing lifestyle, with not much energy left over to focus on your relationship. It’s challenging to balance being an attentive parent and a loving partner, but it’s far from impossible. Balancing roles can help us make sure we are taking care of ourselves and the person who has partnered with us in life. Here are some tips for making time for yourself and your relationship:

  • Your Relationship Has Dual Responsibility: Both you and your partner have responsibility for creating a healthy marriage or relationship, so both of you need to show up in that way. To achieve “balance” both partners must share the same amount of responsibility, respect, and measure of effort in keeping the spark alive and engaged.
  • Make “Time Machines”: Set apart intentional time each week to talk about issues, connect emotionally, talk about important matters, or spend quality time together without distraction. Make sure you choose the same mutually agreed-upon times each week when possible. This helps to ensure success with following through on your plan as best as possible! Block out a few hours if needed once per week that is outside of parenting/work duties and career obligations – dedicated solely to your partnership!
  • Make “You” Time: Carve out moments every day just for yourself – away from screens, relationship drama or parenting dilemmas – so you can physically step away from all the busyness! This provides space for self-care reflection and restoration, which is essential in maintaining your inner balance as well. Tips? Take frequent power naps if necessary; go window shopping; listen to music & surround yourself with supportive friends & family who respect & uplift you; even try indulging in relaxation hobbies such as yoga or meditation too!

Tips for Maintaining the Spark

Maintaining the spark and connection in your relationship can seem like a daunting task when you’re also juggling being a mom. It is, however, entirely possible with a bit of dedication and effort! Here are some tips for striking the perfect balance between being a loving mom and nurturing flame-keeper in your marriage:

  1. Set aside time for each other: As moms, it’s easy to get overwhelmed by the seemingly endless list of responsibilities that come with motherhood. To keep it from consuming all of your energy and time, set aside specific times to be alone together as a couple – even if it’s just an hour or two once a week – to focus on your relationship no matter how crazy life gets.
  2. Do things regularly (or not): Habits can build routines, but they can also lead to boredom, so mix things up now and then! The point is to do something out of the ordinary as often as possible – might be as simple as changing dinner plans, dinner venues, celebrating something special or going away for a few days – anything that will reignite sparks!
  3. Keep communication open: This should go without saying, but talking honestly while speaking each other’s love language goes a long way! Everyone has their own wants and needs in life which can sometimes change over time, so always remember: communication is key if you want harmony in both aspects of your life – motherhood and marriage – as well as to give each other enough room to breathe.
  4. Go on dates: It may seem like an extra hassle you don’t have time for, but dating your spouse is so important! Whether it’s dinner out or just kicking back at home after the little one has gone down for the night; or doing something totally out of character, like going swimming during full moon nights; dates help you remain focused on why you fell in love in the first place and show your partner that they’re still worth fighting/dancing/singing/laughing/crying/whatevering over! So schedule regular date nights no matter how busy you are – it will do wonders!

With these four tips, we hope mothers everywhere have all they need to nurture both their relationships with their partners and children equally – because we know strong marriages make strong families after all!

The Importance of Self-Care

When I’m feeling overwhelmed and pulled in a million directions by my duties as a mother, it’s hard to remember why I fell in love with my partner. Self-care gets put on the back burner sometimes because of all the other demands on my time and energy. But I’ve learned that if I attempt to prioritize taking care of myself, it will do wonders for my relationship.

This means giving my body and mind a break from stress now and then – taking a hot bubble bath, indulging in a massage or facial, going on a walk around the neighborhood, spending an afternoon reading a book – whatever allows me to take some time away from parenting responsibilities. The physical and mental benefits help me tackle my roles as a mom with more energy and resilience.

But making time for self-care isn’t the only way to keep my connection with my partner alive; it’s also important to remember why we fell in love in the first place: our shared interests, our similar values and goals, our sense of humor, our similar backgrounds. While being parents demands much of us every day, we must also find moments to nurture that special bond between us. One way I do this is simply by talking together – sharing stories from our pasts or talking about things we are looking forward to doing together once the kids get older or go off to college one day. Secretly planning for exciting vacations is something else that helps us keep things fresh between us since there isn’t much spontaneity when raising kids full time! Connecting intimately also serves as kindling for continued romance: whether it be an impromptu kiss when no one is looking or taking advantage of late hours with passionate conversation or playful tickles – each moment spent being present makes me appreciate how far we have come as partners without sacrificing any of our individuality.

So even though parenting can be arduous work; self-care can lead not only to more productive days but more meaningful relationships, too. Taking genuine care of ourselves helps us tap into what makes each person extraordinary while celebrating all that comes along when two people choose stay together under one roof amidst multiple distractions!


Balancing being a mom and keeping the spark alive in your relationship can be daunting for many couples. Yet, it is possible and absolutely worth it! Taking time for yourself and for your partner each day will help you strengthen the bond between you both.

Talk to each other honestly, openly, endlessly – and most of all, listen. Make memories regularly so that they can be cherished forever. With a bit of effort and vulnerability on both sides, you will see your relationship come to life in amazing ways. Commit to not letting go of that spark even when life gets busy. Put in the efforts necessary as it will make all the difference.




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I'm Crystal. I'm married to Dale, and mother to Johnny.Some might say that my life is perfect because I get to do all the cliché wife things like cooking, cleaning, and decorating - but there's more! I also have many hobbies including needlework (crochet), sewing, and reading. My son's education is important, so we homeschool him together.

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