Marriage isn’t always a bed of roses. In fact, I’ve found that marriage is filled with lots of thorns. I know we have to weather many different seasons of marriage. That means we go through loads of different types of storms of marriage. Despite all of that we have to find the silver lining in marriage in the midst of all of it!
Del works many long hours and days now. As a result our time is basically cut down to nothing, and when we are together he’s so tired he can barely function. I feel for him. I worry about him and his health withstanding all he’s going through to provide for his family.
Granted, I’ve started earning money from home too, but like any business or project it takes time for it to take off full force. Since I’m limited on the amount of hours I’m able to spend on getting it off the ground there isn’t much time for it to grow over night. I haven’t found that magic key to show you and the rest of the world just how legit it really is.
So as a result, Del feels he has to give his job 120% of his effort and energy. That means he has no energy left for ME or even our kids. His family is having to take a back seat and literally get his scraps. Now I know I’m not alone with this issue! I can’t be there are way to many men in this world like my husband, who are hard workers and who will drain themselves dry to make their families happy!
Now the thing is I’m desperately trying to find the silver lining in marriage through this stage of only getting his scraps. Del has spoiled me rotten for well over five years now by working from home. When he is full of life and energy, I am the most spoiled wife alive!! I’m treated like a queen and a half by him, and he makes darn certain the kids do the same.
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Dang gone it, I’m not getting spoiled anymore and I miss it. I’m the one having to do all the serving. I’m the one who has to make sure he’s treated like royalty when he’s here even that means cooking him something at 1-2AM. Now I’ve told you before that I struggle with loving him like he deserves. I’ve been trying really hard to do it!
To me to show him the love he deserves means:
1.) Being patient (Right now about the long hours he’s working to provide for our family. Enduring the fact that I just get his scraps of energy.)
2.) Being supportive (Again not complaining about his long hours and adding to his stress level.)
3.) Being selfless (Being willing to drop to anything and be with him when he is home. Serving him all the time with his meals, clean home (well as clean as I can get it with three kids under tow…if I could get TWO FULL days with ALL of my kids gone I do declare I could really deep clean this house A LOT. I believe that would make all of us feel better), and anything else he desires.)
There is so much more to my definition of loving him like he deserves, but those are the primary ones I’m struggling with.
The silver lining in marriage for me through all of this is the fact that we are still together trying desperately to shower each other with love in our own unique ways.
We are in this together. We are pushing through. He is doing his job, and I’m doing mine. We will get through this like we have everything else.