Raising a Beautifully Modest Girl

In our society today, I have noticed many teenagers and women not dressing nearly as modest as they should. In many ways, I am the pot calling the kettle black on this topic. Yet, it is something that I am working on fixing one wardrobe piece at a time. Maybe because I’m looking at my own actions with a more critical eye that I’m determined to stress the importance of this topic. I want to raise Zeva to be a beautifully modest girl. I want her to use her special power to the fullest with her future husband. I believe that in order for that to happen she has to be taught by my example.

If I were honest, reading the Bible daily, [easyazon_link asin=”1433682915″ locale=”US” new_window=”yes” nofollow=”default” tag=”tidbitofexp-20″]10 Things For Teen Girls[/easyazon_link], [easyazon_link asin=”0983558515″ locale=”US” new_window=”yes” nofollow=”default” tag=”tidbitofexp-20″]Biblical Beauty: Ancient Secrets and Modern Solutions[/easyazon_link], and now [easyazon_link asin=”0802439772″ locale=”US” new_window=”yes” nofollow=”default” tag=”tidbitofexp-20″]Secret Keeper: The Delicate Power of Modesty[/easyazon_link] have all put this topic on my mind a lot. Not to mention, someone near and dear to my heart is not listening to adults around her because she’s afraid of not fitting in or attracting attention from boys. It makes me want to scream at the top of my lungs that she may be attracting attention, but it’s not the kind of attention she should be asking for.

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Affording to Dress Beautifully Modest

Now, I know from personal experience that finding clothes that properly fit when you’re on a limited income can make this a rather daunting and challenging task. I personally have suffered from this issue for the past three years. I want to dress in a beautifully modest manner, but finding clothes that fit and are stylish at the same time on a limited income hasn’t really happened for me.

I’m not talented enough to sew my own clothes, but it has been something I’ve longed to learn how to do. If you have money to spend on clothing, it is suggested that you check with thrift stores for excellent clothing. Plus you can catch many sales on clothing during the changes of the seasons at major department stores. If you do any shopping for clothes online you can use programs like eBates and Swagbucks to get discounts and earn money back for buying clothes (and many other products!)

Why Modesty is Important

Modesty is important for a lot of different reasons. The Secret Keeper The Delicate Power of Modesty points out one very definite fact.[inlinetweet prefix=”” tweeter=”@tidbitsofexperi” suffix=””]“God’s intended purpose for you is to intoxicate one man with the fullest extent of your beauty.”[/inlinetweet]I love this statement because I think teenagers and single women forget this fact far more than they should. I know I was guilty of it! I worried about turning heads of every person.

To this day, I still struggle with having confidence when it comes to my own personal beauty. My husband has stressed many times over that he finds me attractive. Honestly, that should be the compliment I should be seeking concerning my outer beauty. Pure beauty goes beyond the external appearances.

The Secret Keeper The Delicate Power of Modesty Book Review

Teaching our girls to maintain a beautifully modest outer appearance is more important now than ever. I feel that [easyazon_link asin=”0802439772″ locale=”US” new_window=”yes” nofollow=”default” tag=”tidbitofexp-20″]Secret Keeper: The Delicate Power of Modesty[/easyazon_link] is a quick enough read that many teenagers may be convinced to read it. Parents can glean valuable discussion points to use for opening up the discussion with their teenagers reading this book. Dannah Gresh does a remarkable job providing a lot of information in this little book. If you’re not a believer of modesty, this book provides enough of a debate to make you rethink your thoughts on this topic.

Are you teaching your girl to dress beautifully modest?

Disclosure: I did receive one or more of these books to review in exchange for a honest blog review, but that did not shape my opinion of these books. 




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I'm Crystal. I'm married to Dale, and mother to Johnny.Some might say that my life is perfect because I get to do all the cliché wife things like cooking, cleaning, and decorating - but there's more! I also have many hobbies including needlework (crochet), sewing, and reading. My son's education is important, so we homeschool him together.

13 comments on “Raising a Beautifully Modest Girl”

  1. Very true Crystal. I believe 100% we need to teach them from a young age to dress appropriately. I always did that with my daughter as well and she still dresses with dignity and taste. Great post!

    • Thank you. I don’t see young ladies dressing with modesty enough around me. Just today we were in Walmart and I was shocked by the outfits I saw other’s wearing.

  2. So true. There is a blogger on the rampage and has gotten Target’s attention on how they sell tight fitting, very short, shorts for girls, yet long, loose fitting shorts for boys for example- so the clothing companies and stores need to also be a role model for girls.

    • You’re so right that it doesn’t help matters that stores aren’t selling products that are suitable for people to wear in public. That is part of the reason I have a hard time dressing with as much modesty as I would actually prefer to do. I’m glad that a blogger is making a stand against it. I wish I knew her information because I’d jump on board with her. Thanks for sharing.

  3. I love this! It is important to remember the value of decency especially in our world today. It all starts with ourselves. When we show people we are respectable, they will follow. We teach people how to treat us. 🙂

    • I think many people forget that fact too much all around us. It is rather scary to think about. At least it is for me since I’m trying to raise three kids up in this world.

    • I totally agree with you. It is a huge challenge now a days. I have a very special someone in my life who hasn’t learned the value of modesty yet, and it’s breaking my heart because her parents aren’t installing it in her. I worry about what type of life she’s going to have as a result. She’s still young enough to make these positive changes.

    • It seems to be harder and harder to install this in our young girls minds in our world. I hope that this helps someone.

  4. Modesty is really important, because we want to attract people for the right reasons. It can be tough in today society though. Great post!

    • Thank you Robin for stopping by and commenting. I’m glad that you agree that it needs to be taught more and it is REALLY hard in our world today.

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