I’m always looking for ways to grow as a wife and even a mother. I am a part of the Happy Wives Club which is a great resource of bloggers and others who love their husbands and are HAPPY with them. This club helps me to keep things in perspective concerning my marriage.
Make your home more peaceful by choosing what to complain about carefully. Let’s face it marriage is not always easy. A lot of that starts with us and our attitudes and the way we respond to circumstances that happen. I know I personally have many melt downs where I rant and rave about how my in-laws get on my nerves to my husband. I have told him many times that it’s better that I rant to him than to them because usually the things I rant about are things that really don’t matter in the grand scheme of things. (I’m a rant more than I should though!!)
I need to work on toning that negative trait down. All I’m doing is causing additional stress to an already complicated situation. I need to learn the fine art of venting only when I really feel a change has to take place. That means I’m going to have to “think more before I speak.” How many times have you heard that one?
I’ve mentioned the constant nagging issue before but in a different context. In that post, I was talking about something else all together, but it’s still a form of nagging. I really don’t think either form of nagging is more damaging than the other.
My husband works very hard to provide for his family in all that he does. When he’s not working, he still does a lot in the home to make it peaceful for me. He pointed out to me the other day, that he gets tired of listening to people complaining at him everywhere he goes over things that he can’t control. He wants to be able to come home and not have to listen to me and the kids griping as well.
I’ve been out of the work force long enough, that I literally forgot how draining that can be. When he told me how he felt, I honestly felt like a heel. It’s not that he doesn’t want to be my shoulder to lean on and he’s not saying that he won’t listen when I really need it because he will always be there for me in that regard. However, I can refrain from using that shoulder for all the “little things” that aren’t going to make a hill of beans in five years.
I would much rather see him like this than see him overly stressed out. My complaining also makes him feel like he’s failing at his number one priority. His goal everyday when he wakes up is making me and his kids happy. I can say that because I see him doing everything in his power to do it on a daily bases.
This is one of the reasons why I love the Happy Wives Club because it reminds me of those details that I may not pay any attention to. This club is all about reminding us why we married our husbands in the first place and ways to keep the marriage strong.
Do you find that you complain/vent at your husband a lot for things he can’t control (or even over the small stuff?)