That brings me to my point….why is everyone having fits about boys wearing dresses, makeup, and painting their nails. Does that automatically mean that they are gay?? Not in my book it doesn’t. In my book, it just means that the boy likes to look “pretty” and dresses may be more comfortable for him. Heck, if given the choice I’d rather wear a dress than other types of clothes. (That may have something to do with the fact that I was raised up wearing jeans, t-shirts, and cowboy boots all of my life.) Why doesn’t society have the same hissy fits when a girl wears manly looking shirts and/or boots?? I think that’s pretty hypocritical of our society as a whole. Don’t you??? Speaking from experience, I use to rather dress like that on a regular bases, but that definitely didn’t make me gay (even though people tried to spread rumors that I was.)
Today was the first day of school for the year for us. Since school is back in session there are many debates being promoted across the Internet concerning what parents should or shouldn’t let their kids do. I personally only feel that my parenting style should only come into question if my kids are doing something/not doing something to harm other people around them. I’m not talking about someone being offended by what they see my kid wearing either. Quite frankly unless I’m wearing something the directly states something negative against a certain type of person, then by all means I should be able to wear it. This leads me to a particular time in my life where I caused a major debate in school….
When I was in high school, I was blessed with a truck to drive back and forth to school. I put lots of rebel flag related bumper stickers on it. I also wore shirts and jackets with the rebel flag on it along with my jeans and cowboy boots. At first, I had a bunch of colored people get upset with me. Mind you when I first moved to SC, many colored people befriended me a lot quicker than the whites did!! They also always had my back when I got picked on and called nasty names by the white kids in my school. However, I ruffled some of their feathers. I honestly didn’t understand it to start with because I was raised in Ohio until was 9.5 years old, and I definitely wasn’t (nor am I still) racist. Finally, after the colored people who were offended calmed down enough to tell me what they were feeling it started to dawn on me what they were feeling. I clearly explained to them in my mind’s eye the rebel flag just represents that I’m proud to be from the south. To them though, it meant that I was all for slavery. Perception is everything!!! After they found out how I truly felt about the rebel flag they backed down and even got closer to me than they were to start with.
Would I be happy letting my boys wear dresses to school or in public?? NOT at all, but not because I think he’s in the wrong for wanting to wear it. It’s because I don’t want him to be ridiculed or picked on. However, I know my youngest if choose to go against society, he’d do it with extreme confidence and dare anyone to challenge him (told you he’s my momma’s boy.) I honestly hope I never have to honestly deal with this issue, but if it comes up then I’ll cross that bridge with the boys. It’s definitely not going to make me love them any less. However, I do believe until they moved out of our home they would have to dress like men are suppose to dress mainly because I want them to excel in life to the fullest.
What are your thoughts???
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