I didn’t realize just how much I needed time for myself until I went out with my mother-in-law for our Mom’s Night Out event. Then it dawned on me just how much I miss having the freedom to just chit chat about the kids and husband issues without having to pick up my train of thought in between the kids constant interruptions. Plus I realized how much of my life literally revolves around the kids.
Granted, I may blog and spend a lot of time on the computer throughout a day, but that doesn’t stop me from being a MOM first. I’m constantly up and down for them. I’m always keeping one eye on the computer and one eye on them. I know just about every move they make, and I ensure that they do their school work like they are supposed to as well. There are many days were I’m focused on teaching them from 7am until well past dinner time because they aren’t able to grasp the concepts independently with the aide of all of the online resources I’ve rounded up for them over the summer along with their lessons the school provides them.
Gosh knows, Zeva, my little Fuss Box, is a true handful. I do declare she is enough to make any parent wore out before they even have their feet hit the ground. Now that the TERRIBLE twos have set in it’s even worse. We’ve reached the ‘unnna” (can’t even spell it, but it’s her version of NO.) stage. Our precious little girl is my dream come true, but she’s also my living nightmare at times too.
The big question is… How do I make time for ME??
Honestly, I do it with the help of my loving husband. My husband knows that if he helps out around the house and gives me time to unwind at night before I come to bed that he gets extra “sexy time.” So, for him it’s a win-win. It all starts with some type of order in our household.
Rules of the House:
1.) Dinner is usually done by 7pm.
2.) Bath time is done by 8pm. (I usually try to get it done prior to dinner that way after dinner I can be done with being Mommy! What I mean by that is this Mommy is no longer the primary one on duty, if I want to spend times with the kids I do, but if I don’t they know they are to go spend time with Daddy.)
3.) Depending on kids behaviors (and if it’s a school night or not) they are either in bed between 8:30-9pm. On some occasions if we’re feeling generous and don’t have plans of our own, then we’ll let them stay up with us even later. However, on average the kids our tucked in bed by 9pm.
The bed time routine is vital for them, but it’s equally as important for us as parents. We need time to be by ourselves to have the energy to go on to the next day.
4.) Everyone has chores to do first thing in the morning in our house. We all pitch in and get them knocked out first thing that way we can focus on our workloads (whether that’s school, business related, conferences, or anything else we may have on our table.)
5.) We make sure that discuss with everyone involved what the schedule for the day entails. Gosh knows we never have the same schedule two days in a row around here for anything!
6.) We work as a team.
I like peaceful ME Time activities such as:
-Catching up on my shows off of my DVR. (I normally watch my TV shows all at one time-so basically once a week I turn into the TV hog.)
-Playing one of my video games. Yes, I’m a Lego game lover. I may have to start implementing me doing Wii U Fit games again prior to taking my showers. I think that will help make me feel a lot better too.
-Writing letters to friends and loved ones that aren’t close to me.
-Reading that book that has the ability to take me away.
-Soaking in a steaming hot bath using my Bath and Body Works products that I just love so much!
-Capturing sunset pictures and scenes from walking around our property by MYSELF.
-Enjoying anything that allows me time by myself. This is actually one of the reasons why I love blogging because I can do it by MYSELF on my terms.
To be honest, if I did everything I should be doing as a mother and wife everyday then my ME Time would probably never really exist. However, my husband would rather have a well-rested and attentive wife and mother than one who is so exhausted that there is no time for him or the kids. As the saying goes, “if Momma isn’t happy, nobody is happy.”
What does your ME Time look like?