I have shared in the past that I am currently on my third marriage, but ONLY because I didn’t follow my heart and literally tell all those that loved me just how much I truly wanted to marry my current husband. After 10 years wasted, I am finally where I belong. However, my lack of trusting my heart and listening to God’s guidance made it really hard for my relationship with my husband to remain close and strong.
However, we are finally married. The first year we got back together this last time was hell on earth!!! He didn’t trust me, and for good reason! I had burned him at least a thousand times. We have since gotten over that hurdle in our marriage. Now I’m the one who suffers with trust issues. It’s NOT because he’s done anything wrong. I praise God that we have the boundaries that we have in our marriage. I know that I’m the one who has to overcome MY issues of trust.
Many of us, are like me and have not witnessed a happy, secure, and LOVING marriage while we were growing up. (Trust me when I say, if you did, you are EXTREMELY blessed, and have been blessed with the ability to know what it takes to make a marriage work.) Marriage to ME is work, love, dedication, loyalty, and yes, obeying my husband!! My husband is the the head of this household in every sense of the word. There are many times that I do not always agree with his decisions, but he has never harmed us or put us into a situation that wasn’t beneficial for all of us. He has let me have final say on some major things over the course of our relationship, and as much as I hate to admit this, his wisdom would have been better followed.
The longer I’m married to him, and the longer I trust in God and my husband’s decisions, the more I really start to wonder if God truly has given men more insight to better take care of their families. In the Bible, it clearly states many times over that the husband is to be the head of the home. In today’s society, many woman have not given the men the reigns to do that (of course, sorry to say, there are more men that don’t deserve that right than there are that do!!) It took me a while to get use to not being in control or leading the home!! I’ve been so use to having to be the one to take charge and keep everything afloat, that when I did finally come back to Del, it was hard to submit that right to him.
The point that I’m really trying to get across is that marriage use to matter to people. In the past, if someone of the opposite sex saw you were married, they made sure not to talk to you in any manner except for a business relationship or would make sure there was no private conversations between you and them. People were respectful of others vows. Yes, there was still those who cheated on others, but it was HIGHLY frowned upon!
Now I’m reading in the news and hearing on the news, how more and more couples are ACCEPTING the fact that their spouse is going to cheat on them. Which, I can understand wanting to work on your marriage even though they may have cheated on you, and if your both in agreement of doing that, it CAN BE DONE! However, the fact that society is saying it’s OKAY to cheat on your spouse, that really bothers me a great deal! If you didn’t want to remain loyal to ONE person then, DON’T get married in the first place!!! Those who cheat while married or don’t even set proper boundaries between themselves and those of the opposite sex, are the reason why marriage doesn’t mean what it should mean.
Marriage was designed to join two people as ONE for all of eternity!! God is the ONLY other partner that should be involved in the marriage.
What does marriage mean to you?