My Writing Voice vs. My In Person Self

Oh this one is a fun topic. I believe that all of us who are true blue writers can relate. When you’re writing to a screen is so much easier to express yourself than if you were to try and talk to someone directly about what you’re thinking or feeling.

I personally hand write letters to those I love out of state every week provided I can gain the time to do it. I don’t address the letters until AFTER I’ve finished writing everything that comes to mind during that time frame. I do that because I want to be free to write to them without worry about what they are going to think when they get the letter and read it. If I address it before I even begin then the words do not come out of me freely because I worry about what they are going to be thinking as they read what is going on in our world here. My life is not always a bed of roses, and I don’t want them to worry.

We don’t have really any major issues to concern anyone, but there are times when we are literally ‘riding on faith’ to get through our days. We’re trusting in the fact that God will provide us with all that we need when we need it.

The Truth is Out

As a writer I’m a free talker and an open book. I call it like I see it. I don’t hold any punches. As a person, well, I hold back quite a bit until I get to know you. When I was younger I was always a straight shooter and didn’t hold back at all. I found out that people can’t handle my open bluntness. My bluntness was to ‘harsh’ because I gave compliments and criticism just as easily. There was no sugar coating anything.

I hated how fake some people acted around others growing up and I refused to be that way myself. Well, as I grew up, I realized that they weren’t really being fake so much as they were being considerate of other’s feelings. There’s a huge difference! So, I am more cautious about what I say to others. Now unless you ask me for my direct opinion I try like crazy to keep it to myself. (There are still some times when my mouth gets ahead of me.)

My Secret Passions

If you put me in a crowded room unless I have to be the center of attention for any reason, you can bank I’ll be in some corner watching all the action from all angels. I will be having a good time, but unless you know me well you’d probably think that I’m miserable and lonely. Yet, I love to people watch.

Yes, I was one of those people who could sit on the boardwalk of Myrtle Beach and just watch all the action and consider that fun! Shoot, I’ve written very and I do mean VERY long posts about how I was stuck sitting by the front doors of our local Walmart and the people watching that happened there was mighty scary compared to people watching in Myrtle Beach. (It is on a blog that I no longer use at all, ummmm…makes me want to write it again thinking about it now!)

I’m a country bumpkin in many ways, but given half the chance to get totally utterly decked out to hills I’m all in. I love to dress up in fancy shoes, dress, make-up, and have my hair done with fancy jewelry on. However, I wouldn’t love to have to do it day in and day out. I don’t love it as much as I did when I was skinnier, but that has more to do with the whole shopping process than believing I look good dressed up. So, “My Style” on my Pinterest is based off of what I envision happening one day with my body and looks verses what I am now.

Basically in a nut shell, my writing style makes me come across as outgoing and open and full of life. (If you catch me in the right mood, I do still fit that bill in person, but those are rare occasions.) However, in person, I’m actually more quiet and reserved.

What about you are you the same online verses in person?






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I'm Crystal. I'm married to Dale, and mother to Johnny.Some might say that my life is perfect because I get to do all the cliché wife things like cooking, cleaning, and decorating - but there's more! I also have many hobbies including needlework (crochet), sewing, and reading. My son's education is important, so we homeschool him together.

4 comments on “My Writing Voice vs. My In Person Self”

  1. I am totally the same person in real life as I am online. Ashley is, too. It’s funny, I’ve not met a lot of bloggers that I read daily in person, but some are very different than you’d think. I totally get that, too!! –Lisa

    • Lisa,

      I’m so glad that you get that too. I feel ‘bolder’ online than I do in person. Of course, I’ve always been a writer. My husband literally gave me a notebook and a pen and told me to write my thoughts and feelings in it, and that’s how he ended up gaining all of my deep dark secrets and getting to know me more. It created a bond between us that will never be broken. Of course, it’s also opened my love of writing too.

    • I’m actually easy going and one on one have no problem with talking with anyone. It’s just group settings that make me want to high in a corner.

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