My Decisions Are No Longer My Own

“Once you’re a wife and a mother, your decisions no longer become your own.” I heard that a long time ago from someone, but I can’t quite remember who now. God is in charge of my life, but second in command is my husband. I’m very old school in that sense because I do believe my husband deserves my respect in that regard. (Don’t take that to mean that he’s an over bearing controlling jerk because he’s NOT!! It does mean though that he has final say over anything that will affect our family as a whole.) There always has to be someone in charge because “if there’re too many cooks in a kitchen, everything is going to get burned.”


Today we had to make a pretty hard decision. We had to weigh out the pros and cons from all angles. It’s hard to put a lot of faith into God providing for your family when there is only one option being given to you. That option just isn’t going to cut it in the long run. I do declare my next move is going to be a long term move. I don’t want to settle for less than I deserve. Not to mention, if it doesn’t benefit our entire family then it’s definitely not worth me doing.


So, now we are literally riding on faith that everything is going to work out. Now, this is NOT the first time I’ve done this in my life. It hasn’t back fired on me yet since Del and I have been together. Even though, my decisions are not my own from both God and my husband being the one to make decisions primarily in my life, it just means I have enough trust in both of them to provide me with what I need for myself as well as my kids. I am more than able to be independent and do for myself if it ever came down to it. However, I treasure and value my family above and beyond any materialistic item in this world!! 

Am I the only “old-school wife” left in this world?? If not, please make a shout out for woman like us. If you’re an independent woman, I don’t want you to think I’m down grading you or saying you’re a terrible wife or mother. (I’ve had to play that role as a wife and mother before too!! However, I was miserable living that life.)




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I'm Crystal. I'm married to Dale, and mother to Johnny.Some might say that my life is perfect because I get to do all the cliché wife things like cooking, cleaning, and decorating - but there's more! I also have many hobbies including needlework (crochet), sewing, and reading. My son's education is important, so we homeschool him together.

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