I have been happily married for a long time now. As my husband and I both age, we notice many changes to our bodies that lead us to make all kinds of comments to the other. At times those comments that are made in a loving joking manner but they still tend to hurt.We know that the other one had no intentions of hurting the other.
The Fluffy Pillow
A prime example is the other day, Del was doing something and for some reason his behind reminded me of a “fluffy pillow.” I told him as such, and we all had a nice family laugh from it. However, it had stuck with him in a very negative manner, and had hurt his self-image. He went so far to record a podcast about “Things Not to Say to Your Spouse” as a result.
After all, my husband could very easily be a Wrangler jeans model. He’d put all of those models to shame with his cute round behind. Even my mom when she was living commented that was one thing that she knew I found very appealing in him. She picked on me for having a love of ‘Mr. Tall Small Cute behind Man.’ So, I know it’s not just me being biased when I say that about his behind.
He is aging well, and I tend to pick on him about having gray hair at the roots of his hair lines. However, one has to strain to see them. Now, Del has decided that as part of his ‘midlife crisis’, as we’re referring to it, that he is going to let his hair grow long. This is the first time I’ve EVER seen Del with this long of hair in all of the 20+ years I’ve known him. It’s driving me batty!!
Midlife Crisis ‘The Fatherly Look’
The thing is his hair is full of cowlicks that go every which way. He reminds me of so many cartoon characters right now it’s not even funny. I’m itching to get the clippers to his head. Yet, I know this is something that he really wants to do. I honestly think he’s doing it to see if I would love him just the same and have complete acceptance of his new look.
Which I do! I still find him attractive as ever even with his hairy self-right now. He hasn’t even shaved his face recently. Now anyone who knows me truly, knows I can’t stand a man who isn’t clean shaven.
The fact of the matter is I love Del completely. I love him whether he has his normal military haircut and is clean shaven or if he has what he calls ‘the fatherly look’ going on. Yes, he’s dubbed his new look as ‘the fatherly look’ because he claims he’s been awake far more than he’s been asleep. He has had the kids up under his feet more than I have. They have worn him down to the point that he doesn’t even have the energy to lift a razor to his face let alone pull out the clippers for his hair.
That statement made me think… does he see me as wearing ‘the motherly’ look too much? Am I running around looking half put together? I definitely have been trying to improve on that matter, but I have to admit my hair never stays in place. I’m lucky if I’m able to keep a pony tail together on top of my head.
I believe that as we get older we are definitely going to be seeing some major body changes. We’ve already seen many of them already. However, when I really stop and look at my husband I still see a handsome man. If anything I think he just looks even better as he grows older. Of course, they say men look better as they age. I never get tired of looking at him. He definitely still gets my engine going.
Do you say things to your spouse about how they are aging in a jokingly manner?