Generally, it’s the first question each woman tries to answer before starting a relationship. We do this because of all those disappointments we previously met on our way. We do this because we want to feel safe and never get hurt anymore. Each of us has an imaginary ideal, which we dream to meet in real life. Someone meets him on her way home, others on Facebook or some even on maturedating.com. Maybe your prince is waiting for you somewhere so near that you don’t even notice him?
The truth is that we get stuck on our dreams, goals and plans so often that we don’t see the world around us. So if you want to find a person who will love and appreciate you, you should start with yourself.
Pay more attention to the people surrounding you: your workmates, neighbors, and friends. Spend more time together, meet new people and discover new places. Don’t get stuck on the idea that you are alone. Enjoy your life. Usually, the most pleasant moments in our life come up when we less expect them.
Stop blaming yourself
You are sure that all your disappointments in love happened because of you, aren’t you? Forget it! Everybody on this earth get through the pain of the first love, then the second one and the third… There’s no concrete date when you will meet the true love of your life. So, be patient and wait for it. Start treating these disappointments as good lessons before a beautiful adventure comes up.
Forget your last experience
When starting a new relationship women make the same big mistake: they start comparing their new boyfriend with the ex. Leave the memories behind. The past cannot be changed, so enjoy the present and start thinking of tomorrow in a positive way. The difficulties we face teach us to get stronger and overcome the new ones. So learn from your mistakes and try not to repeat them.
Don’t expect too much
We are humans. So we cannot be perfect. That’s why the ideal men your imagination has painted may be not so perfect in the reality. Be ready to meet a real person, with his talents and defects. Accept them all and he will accept yours. A true, healthy relationship is based on compromises. That’s why it’s so important to respect the limits: don’t underestimate or overestimate the person you love. It’s better to make beautiful realizable plans together to make your love live forever.
When you expect too much from a person, as usual, it’s a double deception: on one hand, you are disappointed in the person you trusted, on the other hand – you start blaming yourself. Again.
Relationships are like plants: if you want it to break into flower, you should take care of it. But remember that too much sun and water can also destroy it. So listen to your heart.
What advice would you add to this list on how to build a healthy relationship?