Healing Alone or With Others #NaBloPoMo

Healing from abuse can be done in many different ways. Honestly the way you do it, really depends more on your personality than on anything else. I personally may share a lot of things about my life like an open book, but when it comes to matters of my heart and emotions I tend to keep them to myself a lot.

I know that God wants me to share my personal strife because I know how much of a difference it makes when I read others short comings and how they have overcome them. I am a woman of God, but I do have many fleshly tendencies!

As a child, I was hurting on the inside like crazy. I was scared, miserable, and felt like I had to take on my demons on my own. I knew God was there to help me, but he was in a far off place. There are still times when I do honestly feel like God is in a far off place and can’t help me in the here in now. Then he does something grand and reminds me that he is HERE. God is NOT Dead.

I have found that God does give me a lot of healing. He grants me a lot of peace of mind. I know he covers me in his grace and glory. For those who don’t believe in him, I know you might think this is a bunch of fluffy hog wash, but it’s not. When God lives within you, there is an overall sense of peace and a bit more understanding as to why all the bad things happened.

Just because I believe in him doesn’t mean I don’t have issues or heartache. It just means that I know I’m not in all of this alone. It means that if I pay attention, he does show me the way out. He does show me how I can still use all of the bad for the good.

For me personally, I find that when I have a support group it helps to make things better. It helps me deal with the pain of the past and even the mental and emotional demons I deal with daily because of those things that have happened to me. Would I say I’m healed? Not even close! Would I say that I function rather well for the most part? Yes, I would say that I feel like I live a normal life and there’s really nothing more a counselor could really do for me that I haven’t already done for myself with the help of God.

I personally have always reached out to other people to find some type of comfort in the process of healing. Honestly this was what this blog was going to be for me when I started it. It was going to be my place to share about how I struggle with insecurity and trust issues even though I know I have no reason to have those issues anymore. I was hoping to build a community of followers who also could relate and we were going to build each other up with each new post.

Ironically enough, I haven’t wrote about those issues much at all on this blog, but I have found that I’m more secure in who I am as a person and what I bring to my marriage. I also have found that I trust my husband a lot more today than I did when I started this blog. To this day, my favorite online community is SparkPeople.com because when I wrote a blog on there while I was dealing with losing my mom to cancer and trying like crazy to not gain even more weight, I met a lot of wonderful people in this world!


Do you like to solve things on your own or with support? 





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I'm Crystal. I'm married to Dale, and mother to Johnny.Some might say that my life is perfect because I get to do all the cliché wife things like cooking, cleaning, and decorating - but there's more! I also have many hobbies including needlework (crochet), sewing, and reading. My son's education is important, so we homeschool him together.

6 comments on “Healing Alone or With Others #NaBloPoMo”

  1. I pretty much go into myself when I need to get through things. I find it more stressful to be around people. After my divorce, I moved across the country because that was the only way I could heal.

  2. Your posts are beautiful, and you are right, you writing DOES help others…I find a lot of comfort in your honesty and sometimes our shared experiences.

  3. It depends, sometimes it’s my husband who is so supportive, sometimes it’s my mom, and sometimes it’s my best friend… but I always turn to God first and foremost. I put my faith and trust in Him. This is a great post, Crystal!

  4. It all depends what it is. I do like to try to deal with things on my own but I also like knowing I have people to talk to and who will support me in whatever I am going through.

    • That is a great way to describe it! There is a time when we need others and there is a time we just want to go it alone.

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