After last night’s nightmare it’s ironic to me that the prompt for today’s August BlogHer NaBloPomo is: “Is there any good that comes from forgetting?”
I have a very selective memory! I make the decision to remember things right as things are happening or not. (Now when it comes to remembering buying things from the store, if I don’t have a list it’s not going to end up in our home most likely!) I’m talking about the big things in life!
Due to my abuse as a kid, I don’t hang on to the hard times in my life very much. I don’t keep a record of wrongs done to me by others. I choose to forgive and forget. It takes to much energy for me to hang onto to my anger for others. Plus I really don’t want to hang onto the memories of the nightmarish periods of my life.
It doesn’t do me or anyone else really any good at all. In fact when I do gain a flashback, it does nothing but cause me to be a bear to live with. I start to doubt myself and everything about my current life as a result. I don’t like who I become or how I feel.
The nightmare I had last night was between me and my best friend from college. I literally had a fight with her over something, and I have no clue what it was. However, I do remember stating “I don’t remember what happened or what I did. You know that was a terrible part of my life, and I choose to black out the hard parts of my life.”
I felt horrible that I didn’t remember whatever caused us issues. I know I remember many of the things that happened in my life if I really dig into my memory. However, I don’t like to go down those dark alleys of my mind.
For me the answer would clearly be. YES, it is good to forget!
What about you?
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I think there are some things in life worth forgetting. For some, it’s easier to do that than dig into it with therapy.
I guess I’m one of those who would rather do that than dig into with therapy. Every time I have gone to get therapy, I’ve got them so buried that a therapist doesn’t want to do any digging with me to help me because I do have a lot of it so buried.
I have a hard time forgetting but am trying to.
Holding onto to bad memories or emotions doesn’t add anything to my life, so I do try to forget those things and move on.
You are so right that hanging on doesn’t do anybody or anyone any good.