The “Headache” Excuse is Old School

I went to bed late last night well after 1AM in the morning, and my husband had been waiting on me to have a nice little round to go to bed. I looked at him like he was on crack because I was so utterly tired I could barely keep my eyes open. It made him laugh, and he stated any excuse to avoid it picking on me. I told him that he uses the “headache” excuse more than I do. He laughed even harder and he reminded me of ALL the excuses we’ve used over the past couple of years as to why we haven’t had sex as much.

Our sex life was on fire right after our wedding day. Then as the years went on we have used many excuses for NOT having sex. We decided to share some of our excuses that we’ve had to deal with over the years.

Beware of what you eat for dinner because it may cause all kinds of issues. Like extreme many trips to the bathroom, stomach aches, and let’s not even get started on the extreme doses of gas.

My husband can’t do a lot of physical activity throughout the day if he wants to have a wonderful blissful night of marriage. Due to his back issues, I’ve heard the “I’m in too much pain” a LOT in the past year. To his credit, he’s really DONE a lot for our family throughout the days that he does use that excuse. My back hurts for him when he does work hard on those days.

I’ve used the excuse “I’m too tired” a lot because the kids have wrung me dry. It could also be because I’ve been swamped with blogging work that has made me totally wound up.

Now here’s the kick, men get wowed by seeing us in our wedding dresses on our wedding days. However, the honeymoons shouldn’t stop on our honeymoon night.

Now there are still days when excuses never cross our minds. Del still loves me in lingerie! If I put on a piece of lingerie I’m feeling confident and he knows it. He also knows that lingerie means we’re going to have a fun night of trying new things or doing things that we don’t get to do all the time. My husband’s favorite line is, “Don’t cheat on your spouse just have it wrapped up in a different package.”

I have to admit that lingerie does make a difference. I love wearing it under my clothes when we go out because I make sure he sees what I have on before I cover it up. It drives him insane with hunger. It helps add spice to our marriage.

We also have other things we do to spice up our sex life to cut down on the excuses we use. I just wanted to make a point of stressing that although we do encourage couples maintaining a healthy sex life there are times when excuses happen. However, be sure there is not a long extended period of time where you’re not intimate with your spouse.

What is something you do to keep your sex life alive? 




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I'm Crystal. I'm married to Dale, and mother to Johnny.Some might say that my life is perfect because I get to do all the cliché wife things like cooking, cleaning, and decorating - but there's more! I also have many hobbies including needlework (crochet), sewing, and reading. My son's education is important, so we homeschool him together.

5 comments on “The “Headache” Excuse is Old School”

  1. When I internalized the idea that sex isn’t a just fringe benefit of marriage, but instead a vital, intrinsic part of the relationship itself, that made all the difference.

    • It does make a huge difference in marriage when you keep in mind that it’s important for both of you. I’m glad that you gained that concept.

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