Old Fashion Values Still Work

I was reading a blog post the other day about a woman who chose to be the stay at home wife without kids. She is catching heat for it. It made me want to respond to this concept on my own blog.

There was a time in my life that I swore I’d NEVER be the stay-at-home at home wife and mother. I thought I was going to be the big time teacher winning awards for teacher of the year. I wanted nothing more than to help change the lives of rebellious teenagers. I still would love to do that one day, if the Lord sees fit for me to do it.

I literally rebelled against the old fashion values that still work in marriage so much that in my first two marriages, I pushed until I was the main bread winner of our households. Without realizing it I was causing major issues in our marriage over that mere fact alone.

See the thing is…. MEN ARE BORN TO BE THE BREAD WINNERS! WOMEN ARE BORN TO BE THE CARETAKERS! I didn’t realize how true that was until I started really digging into my Bible studies and really learning what my true purpose in life is. Yes, I do believe there are some women who are destined to be big time executives and they can juggle it all, but for me, I think I was born to be the one who tends to her family.

Del is much happier now that he’s working outside of the home and bringing in his own paycheck that he’s in total control over. I’m happy for him. He walks taller and prouder even though he won’t admit it out loud. He’s fought hard to get his unit in order, and he still sees there’s room for improvement. However, Rome wasn’t built in a day. I know on average it takes a good solid three to four months to really get a unit in order. He’s already making some improvements because his working hours are improving. He’s not as stressed as he used to be when he first started this new position. Although, I’ve complained about his long hours, I am happy because I can see he’s at peace and enjoying being able to live out what his role is as the man of the house.

Here’s the thing, I am enjoying being the domesticated wife and mother. I may not live up to my role all the time like I should. However, for my own sanity and peace of mind, I had to find a way to bring in money from home. I did it! I figured it out, and now I’m making it happen. So now, we are all happy because I get to live the best of both worlds.

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I feel that women should be home like they were born to be. I mentioned a long time ago, prior to Zeva being born, that I had the itch to return to work. What I didn’t realize is that God was telling me that my place is to be home! Now, he’s richly blessed me with all of my needs and then some.

So, when you ridicule a woman who chooses to live out the old fashion values that still work in her marriage think about the fact that she is honoring God and her husband by doing it. If she has kids then she is also dedicating her life to raise a child that is prepared for the world ahead. She is contributing to our world by supporting her man to be all he can be.

What are your thoughts on this old fashion value, where the man brings home the bacon while the woman cooks and prepares it for the family to eat?




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I'm Crystal. I'm married to Dale, and mother to Johnny.Some might say that my life is perfect because I get to do all the cliché wife things like cooking, cleaning, and decorating - but there's more! I also have many hobbies including needlework (crochet), sewing, and reading. My son's education is important, so we homeschool him together.

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