I’ve told you before that I let my husband see me naked all the time even with my less than perfect body. For as much as he still amazingly enough finds me sexy and attractive, there are times when he wants a change of pace. At first I honestly thought that meant he wanted another woman, and due to my background there was a lot of deep discussions concerning that option. Come to find out he just wanted me to start wearing sexier outfits. There are plenty of places that will give you the basics of how to add romance to your relationship. If you know me at all, I’m nowhere close to afraid to talk about sex.
I have looked into lingerie shops quite a bit. I’ve talked about one of my favorite lingerie shops Eden Fantasys several times on this blog. They have a wide selection of lingerie to choose from for all shapes and sizes of women. I still use my outfits from there from time to time.
However, you can still spice things up in your marriage by buying costumes too. Role playing is one of my all-time favorite things to do with Del. I don’t know what it is about getting into the character of someone else while I’m flirting with him just sparks a wild fire within me. He sees it and trust me he acts on it big time.
When I get to change who I am based on my outfit and mood, it tends to make Del feel like he has a whole another woman on his hands. It gives me the freedom to act out some of my fantasies that I otherwise may not have been free to do. We’ve gotten so wrapped up in role playing that I use to have a whole another name altogether that he would call me during these times. I’ve even changed the color of my hair and got the acrylic nails too to complete the looks on a few occasions.
When you are married to the same person for so many years, sex gets BORING! It happens to the best of couples. I don’t know about you but the idea of cheating or roaming doesn’t hold any appeal. (I’ve done my fair share of that prior to marriage, and it didn’t do anything really.) It’s actually fun and more challenging to find ways to make your sex life entertaining and enjoyable with the spouse you have. After all, if you’ve explored each other’s bodies enough you already know which buttons to push to get the most response from them. So, now you get the challenge of figuring out how to keep that flame alive.
If you are comfortable enough to share, what are some interesting things you and your spouse have done to keep sex engaging and pleasurable for you? I’d love to learn some tips from your experience too. I’ve always heard that sex only gets better with age.
I’ve heard of this before but never, ever thought about doing it. Kudos to you!
Oh my goodness, give it a shot. You may find a totally different side to yourself that you didn’t even know you wanted to be/or rather had in you. It’s enlightening to me.
That website is interesting 🙂
Which one??? They both have a lot to offer.
Kudos to you for being so comfortable in your skin and keeping things lively at home!
I’m anything but confident in my own skin!! I just refuse to let my insecurities cause issues with my sex life. It’s not always easy.
I have always been shy of my body because it is covered in scars… thank you for this!
Don’t get me wrong, I’m still not overly confident with my body image even with Del. However, I know I have to be because if I’m not then it could lead to way bigger issues than my insecurity.
Great ideas! My husband and I would love this.
Glad you like the idea. It’s so much fun and addictive once you start. 🙂 (Well, at least for me it is.)
It’s good that you are open to trying new things. Life is too short to not explore and a good relationship is too valuable to let go stagnant.
It’s not always easy that’s for sure to keep it full of passion, but we definitely try. I’m very open to trying new things.
Why not. Whatever floats your boat I say.
We all have things we love to do to spice up our marriage.
I agree with Angela… we need to spice things up and never let a marriage getting boring or stagnant.
You know, honestly, we are pretty routine, when it comes to the bedroom. I would love to spice it up but with four kids, two are 13 month old twins, I’m usually too tired at this point. Once they start sleeping through night…it is on. 🙂
Never thought about that, but it’s certainly a great way to spice up things!
Glad it gave you something to think about doing.
Sounds like you are keeping it spicy in the bedroom.
In the bedroom, out the bedroom, and wherever the mood strikes. I do declare we tend to forget we are well past our teenage selves. It’s important to me that we keep things interesting and fun for as long as possible.
I’m a plus size gal (who has scars and all) and my husband has seen me completely. We don’t role-play but we do have a little game we play called “let’s meet” where we’ll pretend to be someone else and have a one night stand (well I guess that’s role playing lol). I kinda like it and it’s fun but we don’t do it often. I don’t mind dressing up (yeah, I said it) but my husband isn’t that spontaneous, so he wouldn’t go for it. Yeah, he sucks.
I’m sure he doesn’t suck, if he did you would never would have married him in the first place. 😉 It sounds to me like he’s still adventurous, but in a cautious way. I’m confident he’ll still appreciate YOU dressing up for him. No one says you have to go to a physical party. You can always have a party for two, with some ‘sex songs’ to get the groove on. You can get a cheap disco ball light too to help set your setting.
Good for you. I’m definitely not that bold and comfortable with myself, but I think it’s great that you are and that it is keeping your marriage lively 🙂
Crystal, please do not think I’m that bold and comfortable in my own skin. I am actually VERY FAR from it. (I have a blog series that I will be writing about this very topic, but I want to get it all REALLY started before I post it. I have a lot of them written.) However, what I am is a woman who strongly knows the value behind doing these things for my husband (which is expressed in some of my way older posts.)