I’ve told you before that I let my husband see me naked all the time even with my less than perfect body. For as much as he still amazingly enough finds me sexy and attractive, there are times when he wants a change of pace. At first I honestly thought that meant he wanted another woman, and due to my background there was a lot of deep discussions concerning that option. Come to find out he just wanted me to start wearing sexier outfits. There are plenty of places that will give you the basics of how to add romance to your relationship. If you know me at all, I’m nowhere close to afraid to talk about sex.
I have looked into lingerie shops quite a bit. I’ve talked about one of my favorite lingerie shops Eden Fantasys several times on this blog. They have a wide selection of lingerie to choose from for all shapes and sizes of women. I still use my outfits from there from time to time.
However, you can still spice things up in your marriage by buying costumes too. Role playing is one of my all-time favorite things to do with Del. I don’t know what it is about getting into the character of someone else while I’m flirting with him just sparks a wild fire within me. He sees it and trust me he acts on it big time. So, checking out costumes at Mr.Costumes.com is just as productive for my marriage as checking out other types of stores.
When I get to change who I am based on my outfit and mood, it tends to make Del feel like he has a whole another woman on his hands. It gives me the freedom to act out some of my fantasies that I otherwise may not have been free to do. We’ve gotten so wrapped up in role playing that I use to have a whole another name altogether that he would call me during these times. I’ve even changed the color of my hair and got the acrylic nails too to complete the looks on a few occasions.
When you are married to the same person for so many years, sex gets BORING! It happens to the best of couples. I don’t know about you but the idea of cheating or roaming doesn’t hold any appeal. (I’ve done my fair share of that prior to marriage, and it didn’t do anything really.) It’s actually fun and more challenging to find ways to make your sex life entertaining and enjoyable with the spouse you have. After all, if you’ve explored each other’s bodies enough you already know which buttons to push to get the most response from them. So, now you get the challenge of figuring out how to keep that flame alive.
If you are comfortable enough to share, what are some interesting things you and your spouse have done to keep sex engaging and pleasurable for you? I’d love to learn some tips from your experience too. I’ve always heard that sex only gets better with age.