When You Know Love Is Real

I can remember being a teenager and wondering whether or not I had found my true love in my life. I had found mine at an early age, but I was too afraid to sink my heart into it. However, that never stopped me from wondering about it throughout my teenager years.

Ironically, I still hear other teenagers asking this question a lot too when they start dating. I’ve always thought it was really a hard question to answer until NOW. Now I think I have the clear answer to these age old questions: When is love real? When do you know you’ve found the one?

Many people cover the definition of when love is real according to the Bible’s definition in 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8. Which, I am a big fan of those verses. I refer to them a lot, and try desperately to love like I’m suppose to. Love is an action, and it requires a lot from a person.

Now what about people who don’t have this clear definition to guide them? What about people who are going at it blindly? How in the world are they suppose to know what love is?

In my case… I felt how my body and spirit reacted to Del. My body literally feels like it’s on fire in a positive way when I’m with him. I literally tremble with excitement when I see him after a long absence from him. My entire being feels like it’s whole when we are together. I know I’d go to the moon and back for him, if that’s what it took to make him happy.

Seeing him happy, makes me thrilled. However, when I see him in pain like he’s currently in, it kills me into a million little pieces. I trust him with my life and all of me. I am not afraid of being less than perfect around him. I’m not afraid to be all of me around him.

There isn’t a man alive that makes me turn my head or gets my flames going anymore. I literally feel nothing when I’m around other men. It’s all business, family related, or they are a spouse/boyfriend to a friend of mine (and my friend is around.) I have no thoughts of being with another man sexually anymore at all.

So for me, my personal definition of finding love that is real… is when you are totally complete when you’re with the other person, when you want to see them happy and will do everything in your power to make it happen, when you have a physical reaction to them that ONLY they can take care of, and when you can’t picture your life without them in it.


What is your definition when love is real? 




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I'm Crystal. I'm married to Dale, and mother to Johnny.Some might say that my life is perfect because I get to do all the cliché wife things like cooking, cleaning, and decorating - but there's more! I also have many hobbies including needlework (crochet), sewing, and reading. My son's education is important, so we homeschool him together.

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