Go It Alone or With Friends?

Do you know how hard it is for me to not write about all of the things that are wrong in my life? Probably not, because I don’t feel I have the freedom to write about those things online because to many people HERE actually read my blog. Plus I don’t believe in spreading my dirty laundry across the web. I have worked really hard to break that terrible habit.

The reason is because I know the value of working things out with my spouse on our own. I’ve learned that it is so much easier to work things out between us than it is when we bring others into our problems. Plus as his wife, I have to say it’s my job to build him up both in private and in public.

I would love to share my problems with some close knit girlfriends. When I watch the shows, Devious Maids and Mistresses it makes me long for that type of close knit relationships with other girls. I have been praying for that to happen.

I know the value having someone else’s opinion on a topic or issue. It helps to gain an outsiders point of view who isn’t in the midst of everything. I personally think being able to talk to others about things does help out a lot. It may not necessarily solve the problems themselves, but it does tend to help clear things up.

I would like to know what your thoughts on the topic are. Do you keep things to yourself or do you share them with close friends? 




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I'm Crystal. I'm married to Dale, and mother to Johnny.Some might say that my life is perfect because I get to do all the cliché wife things like cooking, cleaning, and decorating - but there's more! I also have many hobbies including needlework (crochet), sewing, and reading. My son's education is important, so we homeschool him together.

12 comments on “Go It Alone or With Friends?”

    • I have found that to be a big issue! All of my close friends I had growing up, have moved far far far away. Life of a mother and wife also changed the dynamics too.

  1. I have 2 really close friends (one doesn’t live close to me) that I feel I can tell anything to, and my Mom. At least one really good girlfriend really is nice… I wouldn’t know what to do with them.

  2. Nope, I’m way too guarded to share things like this. I have some great girlfriends but I always keep a wall up. I’m super private.

    • I sometimes wish my personality was more private. I am private about some things still, but there are still times when I need help to work through my problems.

  3. I have a different friend for each situation. I share certain types of problems with my sister who is logical and organized. Others I look for a friend who is more empathetic and loving. I know that I’ll get the support I need when I turn to the people in my life.

    • It’s nice when you have so many friends to choose from. 🙂 You’re wise for having a different set of friends for every situation.

  4. It seems I am exactly the opposite of you. Thankfully I don’t feel much is wrong in my life but I tend to keep a lot of stuff hidden amongst close friends and family. I don’t like anyone that is not in my inner circle knowing my business.

    • When it comes to very personal things, then yes, I am very reserved and keep things to myself. If I have an issue with my marriage it stays between my husband and I. However, things like needing advice on how to fix something or how I can improve on something I like to be more open about.

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