The last two days has been making me think a lot. See, I told you that I’ve been working on yelling a lot less. I’ve been trying not gripe as much.
Guess what…. I have totally utterly lost my voice altogether due to whatever the hang bug that is going around. It hurts to talk at all. My chest feels like it’s going to explode. My head is spinning. Yet, a mother’s job is NEVER done even when they don’t want to get up out of bed.
When my mom’s cancer in her thyroid got to be bad she had a really hard time talking too. So, she choose her words very carefully because every word hurt to speak.
Things I’ve Learned About Kids Being Quiet
1.) Kids respond better to a quiet request.
2.) When a child has to try to figure out what it is you’re saying or wanting, it’s quite interesting the choices they come up with.
3.) You get to really see what they have learned from you about taking care of others. My oldest has been trying desperately to pick up the slack of what I can’t bring myself to do. ( He has LITERALLY DONE ALL of the laundry is folded and put away, he cooked lunch for himself and siblings, offered to do dishes, and he has been doing his best to keep his siblings in line all day.) He may be wanting to earn some MAJOR brownie points, but he’s definitely doing it with style that’s for sure. He knows how much a clean house makes me feel better.
4.) The quieter you are, the quieter they are. My kids have been like little mice running around the house today. It’s hard to even tell I have three kids in my house.
5.) The power of having them write statements of correction is pretty successful. They can’t stand being forced to sit at a desk and write a lot!
Things I’ve Learned About Me
1.) If I have to be quiet, I can’t complain as quickly. So, I pick my battles a lot more carefully.
2.) I realized just how many times the last two days I would have yelled in a day. It’s scary when I had to envision what my day would have looked like had I not been forced to be QUIET.
3.) I got more creative on discipline and grabbing my kids attention. Why couldn’t I do that with my voice in tact? Am I really being that lazy as a parent?
4.) Being quiet is actually more peaceful than trying to nitpick every detail .
5.) There is definitely a lot of merit to the saying, “It’s harder and more rewarding to be the listener than it is to be the talker.”
Now here’s the real kicker…..
Will all of these lessons be well learned when my voice is restored? I certainly hope so because I definitely value my voice. I love to sing, talk way more than I should, and I enjoy laughing. All of those things are really hard to do without my voice. I enjoy having phone conversations with my husband. I enjoy being able to physically tell him I love him before he leaves and when we wake up next to each other.
I miss my voice. I definitely hope I don’t have to live without my voice forever. However, if I did, I know that we’d survive it. Things would a lot quieter around here that’s for sure.
What would be different in your life if you lost your voice?
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