For Women Only, Revised and Updated Edition: What You Need to Know About the Inner Lives of Men is right along the lines of the Love and Respect series, but it’s focused solely on what women wish they knew about their men in their lives. We all know men and women are geared differently. What we don’t seem to understand is how.
This book all women should read covers a lot of the touchy subjects.
I knew a lot of things that she brought up in this book. However, she dug into the details in a deeper sense. Plus she also gave some survey results that were a bit shocking. Plus it helped me to know that regardless what I do or don’t do, my husband is still wired to have thoughts about other women. However, that doesn’t mean he is going to act on them (like so many men do.)
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I know I have mentioned before that I have offered my husband open access to having sex anytime he’s wanted it. However, that wasn’t enough. That wasn’t cutting it for him in his heart. How did I find this out?? After reading the book, I had to go to my husband and have another heart to heart with him. Guess what… the author was right!!
I had been giving it to him, but lacking the passion and involvement in it. So, I had to take a different attitude on the subject. Being willing is one thing, but putting it into action is a whole another ball game.
Things have drastically changed for me and my family!!
Since Del got a job outside of the home, my life had been turned upside down!! I no longer had his help with the kids and the housework. I no longer have my two hour break from the kids a day. He doesn’t have the time to help like he use to. When he’s off he is still working with the family business. Plus he’s doing school work. So, now when he’s blessed with the time to have down time I don’t want to pawn the kids off on him too. I want him to have time to unwind and relax.
I appreciate the fact that he’s working so hard for our family. I value the fact that he ensures that I get to stay home with the kids (even if they are currently driving me to insanity.) So, I try not to ask him for his help with the kids.
Want the shocking revelation??
Guess what, when I told him all of that and how it was impacting our sex life he was QUICK to say that he would help with the kids GLADLY still. He enjoyed those hours with the kids even if they pushed his buttons at times too. He also enjoyed how our sex life was in comparison too. So, I gave it a run for the money. Man did it make a difference in all of us.
The kids valued the time they got to spend with Daddy. They enjoy having Mommy and Daddy kissing each other more and being able to smile more.
Sex doesn’t just help a marriage survive.
It helps a family survive. I know you may not want to believe me or many of the other experts that express this FACT. However, I promise you it makes a world of a difference when a couple is able to FREELY enjoy sex together. Throw all the other things from your mind… don’t let your exhaustion become so high that there’s no room for you to be sexually active with your spouse… BE IN THE MOMENT with them.
I am learning that it is so much easier said than done when your dealing with three kids pulling, climbing on, and wracking your ever loving nerves all day long. This is not even mentioning trying to get everything done that HAS to get done in a day and still finding time to unwind yourself. Once you do enjoy sex then I assure you it gives YOU physical release. It also helps you reconnect with your spouse.
Guess what, your better able to deal with the kids. You have a bit more patience (I said a bit because I don’t ever have a lot of patience. When I want something done, I expect it done right then and now.) You even gain an extra step in your walk.
This book doesn’t just talk about sex issues though. It talks about other things as well. It covers how we can talk with our spouses. This is a small book for women, but it’s packed full of valuable information that is worth mentioning!!
Go get this book for yourself here: For Women Only, Revised and Updated Edition: What You Need to Know About the Inner Lives of Men.
Have you read any of these books in this series?
Disclosure: I did get this book to review from Blogging for Books. That had NO impact on my opinion of this book.