Standing Up is a movie that is very fitting for this time of month. At least it is in my book! It is about two kids who go to summer camp, and get bullied in an extreme manner. They decide to run away from camp. The girl comes up with some crazy ways of getting back in touch with her mother. There is just enough suspense through the movie to keep my kids well entertained. It was adult enough that I totally enjoyed it.
However, it made me think long and hard about our bullying situation that is taking over our world. I have finally been able to do some blog hopping again, and I came across a blog post that really caught my attention. This blogger is running a giveaway through Green Giants, but it’s the concept of writing an Open Letter to My Kid on Bullying that impressed me. I know when I was growing up bullying was not something that happened that often.
However, I believe that as parents are being forced to work extra long hours and are worried about our finances that domestic violence is increasing in our world. I believe it was this way during the Great Depression too, but I have no physical proof to back up my theory of that.
I do have personal experience to back me up though. I’ve talked about my life dealing with domestic violence abuse from when I was kid. So, I won’t bore you with those fine details again.
I am a firm believer that kids are being bullied and physically abused by their parents at home. In turn they bring those negative things to their school and in play environments. I’m NOT saying all bullies or kids who get overly aggressive fighting are being abused at home because I do know some kids who are naturally like that who are definitely not being abused by their parents. I am saying though, that in MANY cases it’s very possible why it’s happening.
Most bullies are truly scared individuals honestly fighting to be heard just as much as the victims of their abuse are wanting to be heard. I’m totally opposite of everyone else in the world it seems.
We need to protect and save the bully.
I can literally hear some of you gasping reading that one. See, the thing that runs through my mind all the time is….
What if we focused our energy on protecting the bully?
What if we showered that bully with true love?
What if we spent time teaching that bully how to really express himself?
What if we found out why the bully is stealing lunches, lunch money, etc.?
What if we get to the heart of the matter?
I have talked to my bullies from my school as adults. They are filled with regret and sorrow over how they’ve treated others.
I believe the bully needs HELP. Help to really grow and learn. HELP to be more loving. HELP to stop being overly aggressive. There is so much I really want to say in regards to this topic, but I don’t quite have the right wording. But I do think you get a small gist as to my thoughts on the topic.
Can you agree with me at all concerning this so far?