Del was telling me that when he use to check his email he’d get all of these ads for single women. Then since I started my blog and posted pictures of him online all of a sudden he’s getting weigh loss ads showing up on the side of his email instead. He told me that now he literally looks at the ad and how the underwear are literally rolling up underneath the woman’s belly and don’t quite fit the woman.
He stated he started looking in the mirror at himself and comparing how his underwear fit him. He also pointed out that he has a small belly now that he’s never had until the past two years (which is very true!!) He was always skinny until I got pregnant with Zeva. I picked on him and told him he still looks quite handsome. I do personally feel the weight looks wonderful on him!! (He was nothing but skin and bones before.)
I find it odd that I’m still getting the single’s ads and he’s getting the weight loss ones. It should be the other way around. Are the ad networks afraid I’m to sensitive to handle it?? Do they know he’ll make a joke out of it all and bring it up?? Do they think that they’ll get the man on board with the idea of me losing weight and have him push it on me??
My husband was wondering how they knew he was feeling like he needed to lose weight. People say that the Yahoo and Google give you ads based off the things you do online. If that’s the case, then I wonder why I get single’s ads because I definitely don’t look for anyone else!!
Del worded this so well that I was laughing my tail end off. He has a way with doing that, and I wish I could capture his voice inflection and wording when he says things like this. He had me picturing him in front of a mirror lifting his small belly up and jiggling it and turning from side to side looking at himself from every angle. I found it quite amazing that he cares so much about how he looks.
To think, the whole conversation started because I was looking at how much my body had changed since 1993 when he met me in our mirror in our bedroom. I asked him how in the world he could still find me attractive like he does. He stated, that’s easy..”Because I love you.” I was baffled by that answer. He turned the question back on me, and low and behold..he’s right I love him too, and I don’t see the changes in his body. All I see is the man who has been my everything for over 20 years (granted, it’s been off and on a lot throughout those years, but our bond was always there pulling us back to each other.) When I look at him now, he’s more handsome than he was back in 1993 even though he’s older and yes, he even weights more. He’s older, wiser, and has even more of my heart than I thought was humanly possible.
So, this made me think about the fact that we tend to forget others have similar feelings of insecurity as we have. They also fear being sexually appealing to their other half too. Weight is only part of the equation. Losing the weight won’t change who I am as a person (although, when I did lose it with Zeva, my insecurity seemed to sky-rocket! Which we found odd, but I think it had more to do with my own personal fears.)
How does your spouse feel about their body image?? Now, how do you feel about their body image?? That’s a good thing to think about as we go into Valentine’s Day. Maybe you should remind your other half just how appealing they are to you.