A Plea from a Desperate Family

I can’t believe she has grown up so much already. It feels like yesterday that I gave birth to her. Yet, she’s literally already in the big car seat now facing forward. She’s becoming quite the independent person too….


Until it’s time for bed.

Then we’re back to her wanting to be a baby and a half. She won’t sleep alone for any reason what so ever at night. NO, her brother(s) will NOT work… her Daddy won’t work… It has to be ME!! She has literally fought going to sleep for hours on end all the way until 3 AM. Yes, you read that right 3AM.

We’ve tried so many different things to get her to sleep through the night on her own in her bed. We’ve tried routines only to have that fall through the cracks. Those routines included nice warm baths, me reading a book using my Kindle Fire to her, and me laying with her until she falls asleep (or at least close to it.) Only to have her become COMPLETELY utterly wide awake the minute I walk out of the room.


I’ve even tried the cry out method for a couple of nights in a row. I hated it far more than she even seemed to. She cried her eyes out bloody murder, but the minute I walk back in the room and get on her bed she’d be all smiles. It would make me mad as fire. Del would become extremely mad. I go into protective mode and fear at the same time because he gets angry, and I’m already trying to calm her down. Del wouldn’t hurt her, but that turns into an ugly mess. (I have my own baggage that makes it hard for me to deal with him being angry and her being an extremely fussy baby.) So, the cry out method DOES NOT work. However, I fear we’re running out of options.


This Mommy HAS to have time with her man!!! It is a MUST. It keeps me sane and secure in my marriage. To me a healthy marriage comes first before my kids being happy. This goes against everything I believe in having to accommodate to Zeva EVERY night. She is worth it please don’t get me wrong. However, enough is enough. She is over a year old now, and definitely needs to get over this issue.


So dear readers, I’m BEGGING and PLEADING… tell me how to get Zeva to sleep on her own!!! Our entire family would rejoice and love you for it!!




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I'm Crystal. I'm married to Dale, and mother to Johnny.Some might say that my life is perfect because I get to do all the cliché wife things like cooking, cleaning, and decorating - but there's more! I also have many hobbies including needlework (crochet), sewing, and reading. My son's education is important, so we homeschool him together.

2 comments on “A Plea from a Desperate Family”

  1. That is a hard one and I am probably not much help because like you I do ntot let my kids cry it out and we are with them in bed or at least the room until they are sound asleep until about 2 years old and then they are fine. I feel for my kids it created a solid foundation of extreme feelings of safety, peace and comfort so once they got bigger they could go to sleep by themselves. That being said my girls have always let my husband lay with them too so it was not all on me. Also I have 4 girls so 2 to a room meaning no one is alone. Hugs to you it is so frustrating some nights and to be honest my 3 year old still needs us but she does not nap so it only takes about 15 minutes which is no big deal. I hope it gets better!

    • Thank you oh thank you for the comment on this post!! I was desperate for answers from someone other than myself and my husband. Ironically last night I tried one of Delbert’s stuffed beings that he had on his bed that looks like a little boy, and for some reason she slept all night. She got up for a few minutes and curled up with her new buddy and went right back to sleep. Tonight she didn’t argue about going to her bed without being totally asleep.

      So, we’ll see what happens. 😉

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