You only live once, and the longer you stay a child, the longer you get to enjoy the simple pleasures of life.
My oldest son has been talking a lot about what he wants to own when he gets older. Every time I turn around he’s adding something else to his list of items he plans to have. He has been begging Del and I to have just one more baby after this one so that he can have two more sisters instead of just one. He honestly thinks in his mind that we get to choose the sex of our babies. Of course, I told him when we were trying to conceive that he needed to pray to God every night for a little sister. (I prayed the same prayer constantly.) Now, he says that since I won’t be giving him another baby, that’s he’s going to make sure that his wife gives him a house full of kids. I told him that he better make good grades and learn how to treat others well and become a social beaver, and earn his way into landing a well paying career. So far, he seems to be really taking that to heart. He’s been earning really good grades from the word go. (He’s struggling a bit more this year, but we’ve been making improvements, so there’s still hope to have a good grade by the time the report card comes.) He’s definitely come out of his shell and is starting to learn how to properly treat others. It’s amazing to see him blossoming into everything I knew he could be, and he still has more room to grow (as we ALL do.) I get steadily amazed by how many changes he’s made just in the last 3.5 months alone. I knew a routine would make a huge difference in his life, but I didn’t expect it to be this big. My in-laws are even impressed by it, and that to me means a lot. He’s on a hipper pill today it seems, but he’s happy!! After him being excellent all week long in school, I can deal with him being hipper!!!
He also said that he was going to plant a tree in his yard that will grow money, and make sure that he has a rainbow that goes over his house and he’s going to get to the end of it and give me the pot of gold to get everything that I want. We like to play the dream game about what we would all do if we won the lottery. Of course, we’d give to our church first, then buy a nice house, two nice vehicles, four wheelers, and a motorcycle for Del. Granted we don’t need to be rich to gain all of those things, but Del and I are both working hard on obtaining our degrees so we can earn those things before we get to old to enjoy them. However, God has richly blessed us by providing all we need in the meantime.
That brings up another point, kids have the ability to dream big and actually make those dreams a reality. If they are smart and marry well the first time, they truly stand a chance of making it happen. I know I’ve been married three times now, and the first two marriages have drastically effected my obtaining all my dreams. I’ve come close at getting them in each marriage, only to have to start back over again. Starting over after a divorce is NEVER easy! However, in some cases, it’s better to start over than to stay in an unhappy marriage. We only have ONE life to live, and it’s well worth it to make the most of every ounce of every day.
My accident in February 2006, changed my life because in that accident I knew I wasn’t where I wanted to be in my life, or even close to it. I can honestly say, I may not have all the materialistic things I want in life, YET, but what I do have in my life makes me extremely happy!! I love the man of my dreams (even though he’s far from perfect, but he’s PERFECT FOR ME!!) I have two wonderful boys, even when they do make me want to climb the walls. We have our blessing, Zeva on the way, and so far, she’s growing healthy.
I keep trying to remind my boys that materialistic things are wonderful to have, but to have love in your life is so much more valuable and worth having. Materialistic things are replaceable, but people aren’t!! My in-laws spoil them to death, but I have to admit I’m starting to spoil them more too lately. However, they’ve been earning it from me!! They have been helping me out so much it’s not even funny, and they have been well behaved as well!! Plus they keep saying they don’t want anything at Christmas, but their little sister. So we are free to spoil them now more.
What does your kids say about materialistic things?? Are you teaching them to treasure materialistic things or the family they have??