I’ve been thinking about this all day today. Today was not a good day pregnancy wise, and I literally have been crawling like a turtle and keeping my legs as close together as possible while walking because I’m hurting that badly. I can forget bending over today because it just flat out isn’t going to happen.
After coming home from the doctor’s office, where everything looked fine even though I’m in major pain. I had boxes to go through and organize of Jimmy’s stuff for his new home school program, and I had to start doing the home schooling for him. We literally spent from 1pm until almost 6pm doing school work. He had to take two questionnaires by himself, and he failed both of them miserably, and it really ticked me off. He did the same questionnaires with me reading the information for him and he answered all the questions right.
That made me start thinking about the fact that he is a man in the making, and he literally doesn’t seem to grasp the concept that he has to learn how to do things independently, and do them well!! He also has to earn what he gets in this world. I’m a strict mother and believe in pushing my kids to be all they can be and then some. I know how smart both of my boys are, and I know what they can/can’t do at this point in their lives. I refuse to baby them.
Many men that I know don’t feel that they should have to do as much as women do. Women are expected to work, clean the house, take care of the kids, and take care of their husband’s needs. Men are just expected to work (at least that’s the majority of what I’m seeing around me.) I’m NOT saying ALL men are like this because there are many who aren’t like this!! However, I know more women who complain about being expected to do so much and not shown enough appreciation for all they do! My husband has drastically had to see all that I do for him on a regular bases this last pregnancy. He may not jump in and help as much as I wish he would, but he does help! Even when he doesn’t help, he showers me with appreciation and reminds me that he cares more about me than anything that I can do for him or the house.
I’ve been working on teaching my kids basic skills around the house. I felt awkward doing it for a long time because they are boys, but the more I got to thinking about it the more I realized that was pure craziness!! They are growing up in a world where many men are having to take on more domestic tasks in order to even things out. In many cases (mine included at this present point in our lives, until Mr. President’s List in college, gets his degree), the woman can go out and get a better paying job than a man can. (Even though women want to complain and say they aren’t getting paid as much as men, there are still MANY cases where women can bring home more money than a man can.) However, I am pushing my boys to obtain the education that will allow them to pursue whatever line of work that they want to pursue when they grow up. (I am a firm believer that every line of work regardless what it is has very high importance and makes a valuable impact on a companies overall operation!!)
My big question is….Women do you have the problem of your man not helping out around the house, with kids, or other situations??? Do you feel like your overwhelmed with all that you have to do in a day??