“The trick to juggling is determining which balls are made of rubber and which ones are made of glass.” Don’t know who said this.
I choose this quote because we are all constantly juggling do so many things at once anymore. There is seldom a moment when we don’t have at least more than one thing on our minds at a time. Not to mention the amount of multitasking that we have to do. This applies more to women than it does to men, because as women we tend to want to do as much as possible in a day. Men have the natural instinct to know to stick to one task.
I read somewhere, and I can’t remember where right off the top of my head, but that when we try to accomplish to many things at one time that we are actually slowing ourselves down. I tried to see if that was in fact true by doing only one thing at a time, and for a woman who is constantly multitasking, that was extremely hard to do. I literally do feel I got my projects done quicker, but my mind didn’t know how to respond to only focusing on ONE thing at a time. It was an odd experience for me.
Yet, everywhere you go, there is rarely a person who gives you their undivided attention or sticks to one project at a time. I must say the manager of Chick-Fil-A makes sure that he leads by example and gives every person he’s talking to his undivided attention. I had a manager of Waffle House that did the same thing. In looking back on it, I respect both of those men with the utmost respect a person can have, and would move mountains for either one of them if they asked me to. However, I also know that if I asked it of them, they would do the same for me. They both may be able to handle multitasking with ease, but they both know the value of giving people their undivided attention!! That tends to go a LONG ways!!
Since I’ve got my kids constantly trying to gain my undivided attention lately, I’m seeing that they both need it equally as bad. Now, I have Zeva already kicking and screaming for her attention too, and she’s not even out yet. However, how does one go about giving so many loved ones their attention without being drawn to worry about the rest of the family or others around them. I’m desperately trying to teach my kids (as well as myself!) not to interrupt others when they are talking because not only is it rude, but it comes across as if your not listening to the person talking.
I have a friend whom I just met, but she has five kids, and she’s on her own raising them. I believe she’s doing a remarkable job doing it!!! I had the chance to observe her with her kids, and she has this knack for making each child feel equally special. I don’t know if she even realizes it. However, she taught me that I may be lacking in that department. So, I took a page from her book and gave it a whirl, and already I can see my boys are playing the struggling act for my attention like they were there for a while.
So, showing the person your talking to your undivided attention even for a brief period of time, goes a LONG ways!!