It’s pretty frustrating having. Isn’t it? When I was younger, my bratty sis was the bane of my existence. But if you’re old enough to read and understand these words, then perhaps I can help you improve your relationship with your sister. Wouldn’t you like to be closer to her?
If you’re brave enough to think like an adult, I’ve got a few words of hope and wisdom to soothe your tired young soul. These tools may even come to serve you for the rest of your life.
Sometimes it sucks having a bratty sister
I know this because I have a bratty sis myself. She means well, but we’re very different people. Even now that we’re both adults, things can get heated. When passions flair, watch out!
I also have a son named Jimmy, and he often tells me that his sister Tammy is very bratty, and though I obviously can’t play favorites as a parent, he’s right. I spoiled her to death, and it’s now biting me in the butt.
(Tammy, if you’re reading this… I’m sorry, but it’s true. I hope you understand one day. I know you’ll grow up into a wonderful person.)
So when I give you advice in a moment here, it’s not based on anything. It’s based on a lifetime of experience dealing with my bratty sister.
What can you do about your bratty sister?
I will give you some life advice that has served me well. I learned it from a hostage negotiator, no less. His name is Chris Voss, and he wrote a book called Never Split the Difference. It’s a book about negotiating, but many lessons apply to dealing with your bratty sis.
None of the rules are more important than this: you must show unwavering empathy towards your sister, even when she’s terrible.
Empathy doesn’t mean agreeing with everything she does; it just means understanding the nature of her behavior. Then you can act from a place of stillness and calm, an uncommon quality in a person your age.
What does this mean exactly?
It means you must try putting yourself in her shoes and understand why she acts the way she does. Is her brattiness just a call for help? Is there a deeper meaning you need to explore?
The next time your bratty sis is being a pain in the butt, tell her that you understand her sorrow. Tell her that you love and appreciate her but that it makes you feel bad when she acts like this.
If she’s old enough to speak – I’m assuming she is – then you may be surprised at how well this simple gesture works, especially if she’s angry or throwing an all-out tantrum.
Empathy and calm are the names of the game, and these are skills you can cultivate, even as a young person. And if she needs a reassuring hug or even a back massage, don’t hesitate to give her one.
I hope this helps you, and I wish you the best of luck in your journey with your bratty sister. Remember: it’s not easy being siblings, but it’s worth it in the end. Love always wins.