Passion can push protocol aside. While this may sound romantic, it’s actually a good way to expose yourself and your playmates to all sorts of avoidable diseases. Talking about STDs with a potential partner can be awkward, but you’ve got to do it if you want to remain healthy. In the interest of physical fitness, we are pleased to present a few things you need to know about how and why to questions with your soon-to-be lover.
Hooking up with someone new
It probably won’t come as a surprise when we tell you that sex with a new lover can be a bit weird. Getting undressed with someone new may be almost as awkward as asking about STDs. Both require a level of trust that may not quite be there at the very beginning of a relationship. That’s alright. Keep your sense of humor (and your wits) and discuss your options for STD testing before you land in bed with one another.
Once you’ve had ‘the talk’ and are heading out on a date that will likely end up in bed with your new partner, make yourself as comfortable as can be. Toss a small bottle of mouthwash and a fresh pair of panties in your purse, suggests Bustle magazine. Wear lingerie that you feel good in. If you’re nervous before your date, invest an hour of time doing yoga poses or taking a walk. You’ll feel more relaxed and, should your new partner prove to be a gymnast between the sheets, you’ll be limbered up and ready for romantic adventure.
Bring protection. This applies to both he and she. Even though you and your potential partner have discussed the results of your STD tests, you’ll want to ensure your safety and protect against pregnancy, as well. Intimate relationships are for adults, so be sure to behave like one by carrying protection at all times.
Don’t over-talk your past
You may have been wildly in love with someone who eventually broke your heart. Awful, but it happens to everyone at one point or another. Be smart, and don’t belabor the point with your new sweetheart. You don’t want to listen to them carry on about so-and-so who did them wrong, so return the favor and keep your private stuff private.
Take it easy
Kiss. Hold hands. Cuddle. Not every intimate encounter has to lead to sex. In fact, the longer you take to warm up to your new partner, the likelier your first lovemaking session will be delightful and satisfying.
Don’t be afraid to speak up if your new partner says or does something you don’t like. Be kind, but remain firm. These early days and nights of a new relationship set the tone for the rest of your time together. Explain reasonable boundaries and don’t be afraid to laugh in bed together. Humor can be a great icebreaker and can ease the awkwardness of a brand-new love affair.
The facts about STD
Believe it or not, some 110 million people in the United States have one or more sexually transmitted diseases or STDs. Many of these people haven’t a clue that they are infected or have the potential to infect someone else, warns Elephant Journal. People fail to ask questions or to reveal secrets because they are embarrassed. Now is the time to get over this. People catch herpes and gonorrhea every day because passion overwhelmed their sense of reason.
If left untreated, sexually transmitted infections such as chlamydia can cause lifelong infertility. While in the throes of passion, kids may be the furthest thing from your minds. In the future, however, you don’t want to regret that you failed to find out if the person you were sleeping with caused you to be infertile. If you happen to stay happily ever after with tonight’s sweetheart, you’ll both be glad that you entered into a loving relationship with all information -including basic sexual history- on the table.
Mayo Clinic reminds readers that sexually transmitted diseases such as gonorrhea, syphilis, and chlamydia can be spread between partners without any obvious symptoms. By the time symptoms such as painful urination, sore lymph nodes, and unusual discharges present, a sexually active person may have infected numerous partners. Avoid painful sex, unusual lower abdominal pain, fever, and rashes by being tested before you enter into intimacy with any new bed mate.
Getting with a new partner can be scary and fun. Take it slow, be honest, get tested before you fool around, and enjoy this lovely new life adventure.