Yesterday, I had an hour to myself to unwind, and normally I’m blessed with two to three hours at night to unwind. Now, when I was physically working outside of the home an hour was more than enough because that is honestly and truly what I was use to having (if I was lucky.) However, when I’m a SAHM dealing with THREE kids, TWO kittens, A PREGNANT dog, and my MOTHER-IN-LAW (who happens to be my best friend), and my HUSBAND (who works from home and goes to college from home) that tends to change everything!!! I read a cute little post on one of my friends Facebook page the other day, and I laughed really hard because MANY spouses do not realize what their wives do at home while they are at work. My husband does realize it, and usually does not ever add to my stress load by making comments about what isn’t/is done. If anything he jumps in and helps as needed whether that’s taking a kid or the kids off my hands so that I can get something else accomplished, or jumping in an doing one or more of the household chores himself. I praise him highly for that. (When I was the one working and there was a stay-at-home Dad at home, I was the one who didn’t appreciate what the other person did at the house. For that I’m sorry to those that were harmed by my statements!!)
I had to share this:
”Yes,” was his incredulous reply..
She answered, ‘Well, today I didn’t do it.’
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I could so relate to how this woman felt. I have gone on small strikes, but the family still had their meals cooked for them, and I still took care of basic needs of the kids (baths, etc.) However, they don’t like to see me go on strike, so they do their best to work with me instead of against me. 🙂
It’s hard being the one working outside the home as well because you miss so much. Plus you have a heavy burden of making enough money to make ends meet. Not only do you have the demands of the family, but you have your bosses demands as well. So, please note, that I am not trying to short change what you have going on in your world and daily lives as well.
So, in my attempts to express my frustration today, I thought I would share this today. I am actually quite happy as a SAHM (something I thought I would never fully be, but since work has not coming knocking my doorstep again I need to own up to my position and enjoy it (even though I have submitted my resume’ several places.))
Honestly, I am almost on strike all the time. My dad always did his own laundry and helped with cooking and with us, but my husband has to be asked to do anything and then half the time he acts like he doesn’t know how. So I only do the bare minimum cleaningwise. Nothing stinks or is gross, but it doesn’t look like Southern Living is coming over to take pictures either!
First of Kass, thank you for coming and reading my blog AND leaving a comment.
My house WILL NEVER be like a Southern Living home because I was raised in that stuffy closed in feeling of a home. My mom insisted on having a VERY clean (eat off the floors) type of house and therefore, it could never be a LIVED in home. (To this day, I inherited the house and still can’t stand to see it messed up at all because it was a MODEL home in my book. :))